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Self Love
- July 31, 2019
- Posted by: Rachel Quattrin
- Category: Mental Health Teen Tween Young Adult
Self-love is a Daily Practice
Self-love is about being grateful to yourself and accepting not only how you look, but how you think and feel about yourself. By practicing self-love, you are finding ways to love yourself unapologetically. This is important to be able to live a healthy and fulfilled life. Being able to find a purpose in your life and feel whole as a person has a big impact in your life. This can take part in various aspects of your life – within yourself, work, school, or in relationships. Practicing self-love helps you feel fulfilled with yourself, and this in return will bring you a healthier and happier life. Taking care of yourself, outside and in, will allow you to develop a greater sense of yourself and the person you would like to become.
Love Yourself
Think of yourself as a never-ending self-improvement project. Take a moment to appreciate how far you’ve already come, how much you’ve already done, and how amazing you already are.
The first step to self-love is accepting your strengths and your weaknesses.
Self-acceptance.
Allowing yourself to be a work in progress makes more room for self-acceptance, which is what will help you get to where you’re wanting to go. It doesn’t mean you’ll never grow, become stronger, or have healthy aspirations; it just means you’ll be able to accept your worthiness right in that moment. This in turn will support you in moving towards the growth you’re wanting.
Allowing yourself to receive love & support.
It is often more challenging to accept love and support than to give it. Allowing people to love and support you allows you to connect with others. Receiving love and support can look like different things: accepting compliments without deflecting, believing someone when they tell you they love you, practicing accepting help, and allowing others to show up for you. If you grew up without these experiences, it can feel unsafe to really let people in. When you practice it, you can teach yourself that you deserve these things, and it slowly becomes a little easier.
Finding your own path.
There is no such thing as the right path, way, or method. What works for someone else may not work for you. For this reason, everyone has their own path and you must find your own path and what works best for you.
What is your path?
With so many different ways of healing/doing the work/engaging in personal growth, it’s easy to feel like you’re doing it “wrong” if your path doesn’t look like someone else’s, or if what works for others doesn’t work for you. The truth is that there is no right way for everyone. There is only a right way for you, which might be completely different than something you see on social media or what your friend may be doing. This is okay! Tune into your own experience and move from that place. Through your own ups and downs, you will find joy in finding yourself.
It’s okay.
It’s okay if you can’t do it all. Do your best. Let that look different day to day. Practice. Try. Try again. Notice what supports you and what doesn’t. Take what helps and leave the rest. You don’t have to heal perfectly or keep up with anyone else. Just do you.
A question you may have is what happens after you begin to incorporate these ideas into your life. An example of what that might look like is:
Focus on what makes you feel good. This has a lot to do with what you do in your free time. This can be anything from playing a sport or even taking an art class, because you love to release your creative side. Practicing self-love will allow you to focus on things you may have kept telling yourself you don’t have time for. This also falls under paying attention to your wants and needs. You can begin to focus on your dreams and set goals for yourself. Your goals are much easier to achieve when you believe in yourself.
Daily Positive Reminders
In the end you will thank yourself for having taken the opportunity to get away from your comfort zone and investing in time for yourself. It may take you awhile to get to where you want to be. The idea is to never give up on yourself and to keep going. Once you begin to see the positive effects in your life and how you feel because of them, the love for yourself will grow.
This blog was written by Immunize Nevada intern, Rachell.